mdletterofapology

Subject: Re: bitter letter
Date: Fri, 29 Dec 2000 17:06:06 -0700
From: Michael Detwiler <mijoy@worldnet.att.net>
To: purnhrt <purnhrt@flash.net>
References: 1 , 2

Kathryn,

As I read through ALL of the information posted below . . it seemed almost overwhelming to me to even dissiminate. What starts where, who said what, etc. What I can offer you is a sincere apology for my involvement in the hurtful and hateful situation that evolved between yourself, James Trimm, and the SANJ Beit Din, though, if you recall, from the beginning I urged James to apologize and put the matter to rest.

In my view, James Trimm has damaged you . . . as I have discerned in my conversations with you that you are not
Anti-Semitic. Also, I have changed my view of you in my initial correspondance . . . and I view you as a fervent sister who is zealous for the truth and cannot stand cover-ups and mis-information.

Also, in my view:

You did not lie about James, and have spoken facts regarding him. He has not denied the facts that you presented, thus, one must assume that he concurs with the information. There may be a different view of the facts between you and his understanding, however, the facts that you presented remain credible.

You did not deceive others about James, once again, you presented the facts
In my initial communique with you, my first impressions were that you were hurt, and that you were speaking slander and lashon hara out of hurt. Now I realize that it was not a matter of hurt, but a matter of establishing truth . . . in that regard, since you were directly involved, no lashon hara and no slander was committed. I apologize to you for making those statements.

As these things began to unfold, I communicated with the Beit Din and with James to offer you a credible apology. You did not receive this apology from him [them] and proceeded to expose error. It was wrong that they did not attempt to offer a credible apology.

Regarding Yeshayahu Heilizcer, Baruch Grovenko, Adam Bernay, and Rob Clary . . . I cannot answer for them, nor do I know or understand the circumstances between yourself and them. I desire to be left out of any discussions regarding them . . once again, I know nothing of the discussions that have evolved. I know Baruch, and consider him to be a friend. We have never discussed you.

Just to straighten out some facts- please do not compare me with Uri. He and I are in no way similar. In my
conversation with him in Jerusalem, he commented about his hatred of James Trimm. I do not recall the conversation completely, however, I told him that you were one who had found unbelievable things out regarding James, and that I was truly amazed. If you have heard something different than this from Uri, then he is a liar. That's all. If I told him "why" you were doing this it is what I perceived as the truth . . that you were accused by James of being Anti-Semitic and that you were offended by this and that as a result of James' insincere apology, you were finding facts that would discredit him and prove [in your words to me] "who the deceiver really is."

Leheetraot, akoti
Michael